Trying to figure out the social sphere while maintaining your grades? Trust us, you’re not alone in this regard. There are plenty of students that are trying desperately to make time for friends without seeing their performance drop. It’s very possible to go overboard in both directions. You might think that you have to keep your nose in the book, never going out or doing anything interesting. But that’s a very tiring way to live, if you really think about it. You need to make sure that you’re going to have time for both activities. The social side of things refreshes you, especially as your course work gets more challenging.
Here is the best way to tie everything together.
First, set boundaries. If you know that you want to study during a particular time of day, make that commitment. That’s your study time. That doesn’t mean that you’re always going to be at your best, but habits form from repetition. So in the beginning, it’s going to be a little rough. It will get easier in time, but you have to make sure that you really stick with it.
From here, you also want to make it clear to your friends when you’re willing to hang out. If Saturday night is your best night, tell them so. If you have other plans, tell them in advance so that they can make plans. Far too often hurt feelings stem from a lack of communication. If you let them know exactly where you’re coming from, then the chance of hurt feelings is much lower. After all, we assume all of your friends are going to be in college as well. They will have plenty on their plate to do even if you have to beg off a few events.
Stay the course. It might get tempting to switch out a study session for a night playing pool, but this is a bad idea on a lot of levels. Once you get in the habit of excusing this type of behavior, you’re going to continue making excuses. You’ll tell yourself that you deserve to take more breaks. Pretty soon, you’ll be in a bad position: constantly getting social when you should be focusing on your schoolwork.
We’re not saying that these choices are easy. There are going to be times where you’re so stressed out by your courseload that you really don’t know what to do. On the other hand, it’s best that you pace yourself. Blend in the social along with your classes. Make sure that you surround yourself with people that can keep you on track. Hang in there!